Maxim 6: Everything has a beginning and end.

For all the greatness that humanity can do, that doesn’t mean that very greatness would indeed last forever. Only time and eternity are companions of forever.

This poem best expresses this notion..

Horace Smith’s “Ozymandias”

In Egypt’s sandy silence, all alone,
Stands a gigantic Leg, which far off throws
The only shadow that the Desert knows:—
“I am great OZYMANDIAS,” saith the stone,
“The King of Kings; this mighty City shows
“The wonders of my hand.”— The City’s gone,—
Nought but the Leg remaining to disclose
The site of this forgotten Babylon.

We wonder,—and some Hunter may express
Wonder like ours, when thro’ the wilderness
Where London stood, holding the Wolf in chace,
He meets some fragment huge, and stops to guess
What powerful but unrecorded race
Once dwelt in that annihilated place

History has shown time and time again the rise and fall of human civilizations long past  from their dawn, their peak in their golden age and the embers of their fire in its twilight.

This then teaches us an important lesson. That nothing lasts forever. As such, we must cherish and use the good of what we do have now especially while it lasts. Besides, the second best thing we can hope for is to preserve or prolong that which we want to last. One example is the warmth and vitality of youth as even that energy will diminish over the passage of time.

Some ways to immortalize or at least preserve that which we hold dear is through mediums. One of my motivations of writing this is to preserve the knowledge, experience and wisdom acquired over the years for not only my referral and sharing with the world, but to ensure I leave behind a legacy, no matter what it might be. At least then, I will have something that will mark my passing into the unknown beyond, by which people will remember me and gain an understanding of what I have gone through.

“A scientific truth does not triumph by convincing its opponents and making them see the light, but rather because its opponents eventually die and a new generation grows up that is familiar with it.”
~ Max Planck

Nevertheless, I digress that falls and ends are bad. Rather, they are merely what they are. As such, it is up to us to see the good or bad of everything including ends. While ends are sometimes seen as something bad, ends actually precipitate new beginnings that promises unknown glories and achievements of events and people yet to come.

Besides, endings are found in the conclusions of books, movies and more. Similarly applicable for them and for life itself, without an end, everything becomes stagnant and prevents renewal as the status quo remains undisputed. It is like what Max Planck attempts to carry across through his quote. While the context of it differs, the essence remains understandable in what I’m attempting to convey.

To aptly end this, I leave here a quote by Senaca..

“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”
~ Seneca

Maxim 5: Our life is our responsibility, no one else’s.

“The man who makes everything that leads to happiness depends upon himself, and not upon other men, has adopted the very best plan for living happily”
~ Plato

One of the hardest and harshest truths of human life is the earnest realization that the relationship between the quality and enjoyment of one’s life is proportional to how much we ourselves take real responsibility for our own individual life in all its aspects.

This excerpt (to those who are familiar with it, you’ll understand where it is from) best explains what I intend to convey and I am in no way the creator of it..

“It is human nature to seek culpability in a time of tragedy. It is a sign of strength to cry out against fate, rather than to bow one’s head and succumb…”

I have seen (and perhaps you would have too) how people would happily blame and attribute their failure to progress in life towards elements beyond their control such as the economy, environment, destiny, other people and more. I have seen how this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy for these very people, making themselves victims of circumstances rather than giving themselves the responsibility of changing their life and doing anything they can about it. They become so used to this litany of misery and despondency in mistaking it as a sign of defiance and perceived strength, that anything else is to be scorned, even if it leads to what they actually want in life. This then becomes their reality. This then seals their fate.

While external forces can influence how we would act towards progressing in life, that does not mean that as individuals, we have no less autonomy, strength and freedom to take the steps necessary to progress towards where we want to go, even if sometimes we may not be sure as to what it is that we seek. Even so, we can always have the freedom to explore what we want to do in life.

In light of what was said, no where in life is it stated that we must assume the responsibilities of others. A better way to say it is that we are not being paid to do the responsibilities of others at work. If that is the way at work, then that too can be used for life itself.

“Responsibility is the price of greatness.”
~ Winston Churchill

Above all else, we must realize that at the end of the day, no one else truly cares ever more so about your dreams and aspirations than we ourselves as individuals. Only we as individuals can imagine the heights and weights of our respective dreams. Never prostrate and compromise one’s dreams to the point they are lost whether to your society, strangers, peers or even friends and family. Callous and bitter as these cynical words are, the despair of regret and depression of not striving hard enough in achieving what we want is an ever more callous and bitter reality to one. Only you will regret what could, might and should have been the life you lead. Should we fail, we only have ourselves to blame in the end. Should we succeed, not only will we achieve that we have set out to do in our dreams, we will perhaps go the distance perhaps beyond anything that we could have imagined.

“While his heart still beats, while his flesh still moves, I cannot accept that a being endowed with will-power can give in to despair.”
~ from JOURNEY TO THE CENTER OF THE EARTH (1864) by Jules Verne

To end it, as long as we can still move forward, then we have no excuse not to. As a character in a book once said “mostly dead is slightly alive.”

While there is no certainty of where we might go and what we might achieve, the fact that there is always the possibility of doing so, makes it all the more worthwhile and fulfilling of human existence.

Maxim 1: Life is Unfair

“It is the fairness of life that makes it seem unfair.”
― Gugu Mona

I’m sure for many people in the world, your life feels unfair. Someone is better than you, has more wealth, has more friends, has better physical appearances, has more popularity, has everything he or she could ever want in life and so on. You always had to wonder, why is life unfair to you? As a result, you feel you’ve suffered more than others.

The simple truth is that life is indeed unfair. Yet, let’s think about it. If life would be fair, then everyone would have everything and equal. There wouldn’t be progress if everything were fair and they’d be no reason to progress in the world. Everyone would be the essentially the same. If everyone were to be the same, everyone would look the same, act the same, do the same things and more.

We react angrily and resentfully to those who have a greater advantage than us saying it is unfair because we wish want to be where they are. Isn’t it strange that when we are the fortunate ones, we don’t say.. life is too fair, I’d wish life would be unfair to me like those other people. Curious, wouldn’t you say so?

Now, I’m not asking you to curse at the people and universe about how unfair life is. All I’m asking you is to first accept that life is unfair and turn it around to your favour. Why should you be fair to life when it is unfair to you? Now, you gotta be unfair to life in return.

“The problem isn’t that life is unfair – it’s our broken idea of fairness. Meaning, our idea of fairness is self-centered.”
― Tony Warrick

Therefore, you have to turn that resentment around by channeling it around. Realize life is too short to succumb to self-pity and resentment towards others and wasting precious time on them. No one is going to tell you that except here. Realize that some people who are born with a silver spoon can grow up to be fragile, spoiled and unable to handle the hardships of life. Meanwhile, you’ve been harden by suffering and enduring hardships throughout your journey of life. That makes you tough and resilient. You’ve endured harshness that would have destroyed and stopped others. That’s what makes you different and special. That separates who loses and who wins.

“Winners never quit and quitters never win.”
– Vince Lombardi
To end this, flip it around. Life is indeed unfair and there are advantages and opportunities all around us. The secret to being successful is to harness that anger and rage towards finding and making use of those advantages. A good example is free online education. Heck, the Internet age provides so much more than the pre-Internet age. Use that to your advantage.Acknowledge and understand the reality we live in but never accept it. Make your own reality by mastering it and then changing it.