“It is the fairness of life that makes it seem unfair.”
― Gugu Mona
I’m sure for many people in the world, your life feels unfair. Someone is better than you, has more wealth, has more friends, has better physical appearances, has more popularity, has everything he or she could ever want in life and so on. You always had to wonder, why is life unfair to you? As a result, you feel you’ve suffered more than others.
The simple truth is that life is indeed unfair. Yet, let’s think about it. If life would be fair, then everyone would have everything and equal. There wouldn’t be progress if everything were fair and they’d be no reason to progress in the world. Everyone would be the essentially the same. If everyone were to be the same, everyone would look the same, act the same, do the same things and more.
We react angrily and resentfully to those who have a greater advantage than us saying it is unfair because we wish want to be where they are. Isn’t it strange that when we are the fortunate ones, we don’t say.. life is too fair, I’d wish life would be unfair to me like those other people. Curious, wouldn’t you say so?
Now, I’m not asking you to curse at the people and universe about how unfair life is. All I’m asking you is to first accept that life is unfair and turn it around to your favour. Why should you be fair to life when it is unfair to you? Now, you gotta be unfair to life in return.
“The problem isn’t that life is unfair – it’s our broken idea of fairness. Meaning, our idea of fairness is self-centered.”
― Tony Warrick
Therefore, you have to turn that resentment around by channeling it around. Realize life is too short to succumb to self-pity and resentment towards others and wasting precious time on them. No one is going to tell you that except here. Realize that some people who are born with a silver spoon can grow up to be fragile, spoiled and unable to handle the hardships of life. Meanwhile, you’ve been harden by suffering and enduring hardships throughout your journey of life. That makes you tough and resilient. You’ve endured harshness that would have destroyed and stopped others. That’s what makes you different and special. That separates who loses and who wins.
“Winners never quit and quitters never win.”– Vince Lombardi